In Search Of Intimacy: The Melancholy on Social Media
by Tori Deaux
With low needs for socialization and attention, Melancholies may not be the stars of social networking, but they may find it an attractive medium all the same. The Melancholy personality is motivated by a drive towards intimacy- not necessarily romantic intimacy, but the sort of intimacy that comes with the transparent mythical sharing and baring of the soul of poetry and art… the intimacy of kindred spirits. And in the search for kindred spirits, social media offers countless benefits.
The Concept of Intimacy
by Rick Garlikov
In chapter 31 of The Meaning of Love I explain that many people desire emotional intimacy and that it does not always accompany sexual intimacy and may, and in fact often does, occur in non-sexual circumstances. Sexual (or physical) intimacy and emotional intimacy are not the same thing and do not necessarily occur at the same time (e.g., a medical exam may go beyond physical intimacy without being in any way emotionally intimate in so doing). I want to try to give a fuller characterization here of what emotional intimacy is.
Sex, Religion and Cyberspace
by Richard Thieme
There aren’t many safe bets in the world, but here’s one: things are often the opposite of what they seem. Religion and sex, for example. Carl Jung noted that when people talk about religion, they are often talking about sexuality, and when people talk about sexuality they are often talking about religious and spiritual realities.
Cybersex Amongst Multiple-Selves and Cyborgs in the Narrow-Bandwidth Space of America Online Chat Rooms
by Robin B. Hamman
Cybersex in online chat rooms is defined here as having two forms: 1) computer mediated interactive masturbation in real time and, 2) computer mediated telling of interactive sexual stories (in real time) with the intent of arousal. Computer-mediated-communication is narrow-bandwidth, where face to face interaction from body language and other physical cues are not transmitted, making misinterpretations frequent. This has led to the emergence of a new language which helps users to avoid misinterpretations. The anonymity of chat rooms allows users to safely and freely experiment with their multiplicity of selves. The multiple selves that users of online chat rooms experiment with online are part of a whole self. People become cyborgs when two boundaries become problematic, 1) the boundary between animal and human and, 2) the boundary between human and machine.
Friendship and Intimacy in the Digital Age
by Timothy Bickmore
The design criteria, acceptance, issues and implications of computer-based intimate friends are explored through discussions and interviews and a review of the psychological literature on interpersonal relationships. The importance of close friendships to mental and physical health and personal development is discussed along with a look at the state of such relationships in our society. The ability of computer friends to address some contemporary interpersonal problems is analyzed.
The Final Showdown Between In-Person and Cyberspace Relationships
by John Suler
Whether you like it or not, cyberspace has become the new frontier in social relationships. People are making friends, colleagues, lovers, and enemies on the Internet. The fervor with which many people have pursued this new social realm is matched by a backlash reaction from the skeptics. Relationships on the Internet aren’t really real, some people say – not like relationships in the real world. Socializing in cyberspace is just a cultural fad, a novelty, a phase that people go through. The critics say it can’t compare to real relationships – and if some people prefer communicating with others via wires and circuits, there must be something wrong with them. They must be addicted. They must fear the challenging intimacy of real relationships.
Cybersex – Can you remain faithful in Cyberspace?
by Andy Miah
Cybersex and cyberdating seemed to reach mainstream, with the release of You’ve Got Mail, the cheesy blockbuster movie starring Tom Hanks and Meg Ryan. Well alright, they never had sex over the e-waves–Meg’s just not that kind of girl–but still, it brought into focus for a wide audience that cyberdating is just swell; everybody’s doing it.
Cyber Intimacy: From Net Nookie to Coffee Talk
by Kathy Rae Huffman
Everything CYBER is seductive. It is the beginning of the virtual age, and as Sandy Stone describes it: …this is the gradual change that has come over the relationship between a sense of self and the body, and the relationship between individual and group…. she calls it a virtual age, not because of virtual reality hardware, but because the accustomed grounding of social interaction in the physical facticity of human bodies is changing.
Body surf & Meat sport – intimacy beyond biology
by Stahl Stenslie
It is night in Telepolis, our future home in cyberspace, the Work-zone has changed to Rave-zone, the monotonous info-surf of your digital workspace is replaced with hot bits of darker desires… Contemplating your virtual wardrobe you start to wonder what sex you will jack into, which body will suit your fluid appetite. Now, what is the nature of these virtual bodies? What will you experience? In what kind of body?
Sex and the Search for Intimacy
by Dick Purnell
Dr. Henry Brandt, in the Collegiate Challenge magazine, said that there is a syndrome, a pattern, when couples come to him. They say, “At first, sex was exciting. Then I started feeling funny about myself, and then I started feeling funny about my partner. We argued and fought and finally we broke up. Now we are enemies.” This syndrome is what I call the morning-after syndrome. We wake up and find that intimacy is not really there. The sexual relationship does not satisfy us anymore, and what we end up with is not what we really wanted in the first place. All you have is two self-centered people seeking self-satisfaction.
A Philosophy of Erotic Visual Art
by Rick Garlikov
I have been fascinated with the question of what makes a painting or photograph seem erotic. For contrary to what many people claim about men, it is not simply the sight of a naked female, even an attractive naked female, that is particularly arousing. If it were, hospital corridors and wards would be very erotic places. They are not. And women seem not to be aroused in general just by the sight of a naked male. Moreover, as many (poor) pornographic works show, generally just capturing images of people in various sex acts or positions is not to create works that are either artistic or erotic. So the question is what it is about certain kinds of erotic art that makes it good both as art and as something erotic; what are the elements of eroticism in erotic art, particularly good erotic art.
Themes of ‘The Erotic’ in Sufi Mysticism
By Jonah Winters
There is, in the human experience, a connection between sexuality and religion. This connection can be found in all religions and in all ages. In the religions of the post-axial age, i.e. from approximately 500 B.C.E. to the present, the sexual half of the equation has been little emphasized, or has been expressed only esoterically. As well, sexuality in religious thought and expression has often been subsumed by the more abstract theme of love. However, though sexuality is often hidden, or even is masked by orthodoxy, it remains a vibrant ingredient of religion. This is most apparent within mysticism.
Nietzsche and Eros Between the Devil and God’s Deep Blue Sea
by Babette E. Babich
Although in what follows I address the question of erotic love (that is: the domain of sexuality), it is important to emphasise that I will offer as oblique an approach to the issue of eros and sex as any other philosophical discussion. In philosophic reviews of the erotic (particularly analytic treatments),(1) abstraction invariably ablates the wings of the god.(2) Here, however, the obliquity of my approach has less to with the philosophic elusiveness of the subject matter than with the complex of problems expressed by Friedrich Nietzsche under the name of the repressed problem of the artist.
The Erotic as an Aesthetic Category
By Kelley L. Ross
The erotic, both as representation and as response, can be classified as a separate aesthetic category, or axiomatic category of value in the polynomic theory of value, if it varies independently from other domains and if it contains specific characteristics to distingish it from other domains. The erotic qualifies in each of these respects.
The Most Erotic Artworks
By Carly Berwick
What are the most erotic works of art? When we posed that question to prominent artists, curators, museum directors, and art historians, many in turn posed a question of their own: what exactly is erotic art?
The Pilgrimage to Cythera Exhibition
The greatest intellects of mankind sages, philosophers, writers and scholars tried to solve the mystery of Eros. And it seems that “everything has already been said about love”. But some nuances always remain. The many-faced Eros reveals now and then ever new facets of his natural being, of that powerful creative force which brings into action the spring of our whole life.
Philosophy, Sex and Feminism
Ronald B. de Sousa and Kathryn Pauly Morgan
The view prevails in the English language philosophical community that sex is a marginal subject, a suspiciously bent twig off a branch of Social Philosophy. Our aim is to persuade you that sex is an important, exciting area of study for philosophers. We shall also argue more specifically that the present vitality of the philosophy of sex stems largely from the contributions of feminist thinkers.